Experts Warn That “Phubbing” Is Silently Harming Family Bonds

Phubbing—ignoring someone in favor of a phone—might seem harmless, but experts warn it can seriously impact children’s emotional well-being. Psychologist Mary Alvord says kids may interpret a parent’s phone obsession as rejection, leading to feelings of insignificance, anxiety, or low self-esteem.

Research supports this: studies link emotional neglect to depression by age 18. Though peer support helps, it can’t replace parental attention. Smartphones, now essential for daily tasks, often distract during key bonding moments—mealtimes, play, and bedtime.

The issue extends beyond parenting. Romantic relationships and friendships also suffer when screen time outweighs face time. A study from Turkey found phubbing lowered relationship satisfaction and connection.

Experts aren’t saying ditch the phone entirely—but suggest boundaries. Try “phone-free zones” during meals or meaningful conversations. Children copy what they see, so modeling attentive behavior is key.

It’s not about perfection, but presence. In a screen-filled world, looking up, making eye contact, and truly engaging may be the most powerful message of love we can send.